Inspiration
the following are rules that if applied most of the time will lead to better results. of course there are exceptional contexts where you will pick and choose, but overall, these generic rules will lead to positive outcomes. they are the default setting.
First rule
Procrastination is a topic of actuality, same as multitasking. Both are basically the same thing and both are perceived wrong. why ? because its contextual, if they are good or bad.
- multitasking before starting the WORK is BAD - u basically made no progress, you have no space to add a new perspective. u ve already been in this state and multitasked with eating, shitting and so on.
- multitasking while WORKing is GOOD - this is where the magic happens, you make some progress, you take a few steps in a direction, then you take a break, play something read something talk about something unrelated, ur minds muscles will loosen on that perspective, so when you resume, its vulnerable to chaos, and can find alternatives.
*quick to start, slow to finish boost your creativity (if creativity is needed, and most of the time it is)
Second rule
- Self Doubting is BAD - I AM SHIT doubting urself is paralyzing, it leads you on a path of no solution. if the tool / vehicle is broken .. theres nothing to do. So skip this step whenever it occurs, I AM SHIT is redundant at best. the goal is gonna take X effort, if your perception/ expectations are Y << X or Y > X, it does not affect X, reality. once you get a clearer/more accurate relationship between X and Y, u can make a rational choice, is it worth pursuing ?
- Solution Doubting is GOOD - THIS IS SHIT doubting the solution is energizing, it leads you to explore, experiment, drive for efficiency
*motivating yourself by doubting your ideas and handling selfdoubt.
Third rule
- trying / expressing yourself is GOOD - even if ur ideas have 15% chance of being good, its worth doing as it will eventually lead to improvement 15% > 0%.
its directly connected to selfesteem. and the outcome of your attempt will affect ur selfesteem. worst case scenario, u say smtg dumb, people conclude u are an idiot. why is this relevant? their validation is not more important than the chance to create something better. to improve efficiency. as your identitiy is defined not by external validation / people pleasing, but by seeking efficiency.
- withholding is BAD - it will conserve or lower your selfesteem. why chose this perspective ever? because there are contexts where risking your resources is the last drop towards depression.
* expressing yourself defines who you are. its the shortest path to learning.
Fourth rule
- more output is GOOD - the more you try, the more options you explore, the higher the chances to notice even minute details that u can use in your best work
- less output is BAD - the less your try, the more details you are going to miss, the more you will overestimate some parts and underestimate others, it will drive you to not even notice some of the small tweaks that added up might create a whole different work.
*quantity creates more information to use. more information leads to better quality.
The Three-Step Process to Form Habits
Habits range in complexity. Some are simple, while others are complex. Putting on one shoe before the other -- simple. Grocery shopping -- complex. You need to drive to the grocery store, get out of your car and walk in, go over to the aisle where you’ll find what you need, then go to another aisle, walk to the checkout lines, wait for the line to move forward, grab the Snickers bar while waiting for the cashier to check you out, walk back to the car, drive home. Complex habits are actually just a combination of several smaller habits that are being performed in succession.The first part of how to form habits is the cue. This is a trigger that tells your brain, “Okay -- time to do X.” Once that happens, the brain starts performing the behavior without any conscious effort on your part. So when you walk to the checkout counter, your hand will automatically reach for the Snickers bar without a second thought. That’s just what it is used to doing, and has been doing it for a long time. The first time you did it, it was a conscious decision. After that, not so much. After the first time, the brain doesn’t even think about what is happening. The habit is triggered automatically.
The actual act of buying and eating the Snickers bar is called the routine. The routine isn't necessarily physical though. Watching a guy drive past in a Ferrari could be a trigger for you to have self-doubts about your success in life. Habits are anything that you do without conscious thought. They happen without you deciding to make them happen.Finally, there is the reward. This is what the brain and body get for going through the routine. The pleasure of enjoying the Snickers bar reinforces the behavior. The more often the brain uses this process, the deeper the behavior becomes ingrained. Eventually, the cue will trigger a craving for the reward, leading to action.
This process of habit formation oftentimes occurs unintentionally, without a conscious decision. As long as there is a consistent cue and a pleasurable reward, you’ll form a habit. This leads to us developing habits that we don’t really want.Fortunately, we can use this process to our benefit. We can identify habits that are desirable, and use the cue-routine-reward process to ingrain them into our everyday lives.Moreover, we can use this process to change habits. It is very hard to destroy habits. Instead, they should replaced. And the best way to replace habits is to keep the same cue and reward, and replace the routine. By doing so, you are consciously filling the void left by erasing a bad habit and adding a better one in it's place. Instead of eating ice cream you have a bowl of frozen berries, fulfilling the desire for a cold treat without the caloric load and other effects of having ice cream.
Why Willpower and Motivation Aren’t Enough
Think about the last time you failed when trying to form a new habit. Did you blame failure on willpower? Do you think you need more willpower to be successful?If so, you’ve got it partly wrong.
Yes, willpower is important. Clearly we need willpower to follow the courses of action we set for ourselves. Yet, willpower alone is not sufficient to get us to form those habits. According to psychologist Roy Baumeister, willpower is like a muscle (see an excellent summary of his most recent book here). It can be depleted from doing tasks that require the control of impulses.This is why habits can’t be formed from brute force alone. You’ll fail if your method relies on your willpower alone. You’re human, and sooner or later, you’ll have a day where you’re feeling tired and lacking in energy.
The same goes for motivation -- it also is important, but definitely not enough.You need to have a reason for your habit change, but more importantly, you need to keep that reason in mind. Not just the cue, and reward, but the big-picture goal that you can receive from having changed your habit. However, motivation will not get you out of bed at 5 in the morning so that you can meditate, neither will willpower. What will help you is mindset and systems. You need to have developed a proper framework to deal with these situations. -- —-oooO—- —-(—)—- —–\–(– ——\_)- ———–Oooo— ———–(—-)— ————)–/—- ————(_/- —-oooO—- —-(—)—- —–\–(– ——\_)-