Talia Jones My daughter has been regressing this past week. What can I do to help her?
Liv Kalty What do you mean by regressing?
Talia Jones For a while we had the lack of social awkwardness, the rocking back and forth, the meltdowns, and so on under control but this week she has been regressing. I am trying to figure out why so I can fix it. She has also developed an unhealthy obsession with appliances. Whenever I run an appliance like the washing machine, dryer, oven, etc she will sit there and stare at it until it's finished operating.
Shondolyn Gibson Why is that bad? She's happy! Nothing wrong with that.
Razvan Florentin Popescu it might be a sound thing. her finding it soothing. as everyones energy level fluctuates due to context. maybe its food, maybe the weather, maybe someone did / does something .. maybe its hormonal / natural
Talia Jones The other day we were at the 7/11. She was stimming and everyone was staring. I told her she needed to have quiet hands and she just melted down. I had to carry her out of the store without buying what I needed. I got a few dirty looks.
Shondolyn Gibson She wouldn't melt down if you just let her stim and not care if people stare
Ambz Frye The last thing I,myself worry about is what another soul thinks/feels about me or my son. I LIVE FOR HIM. NOT ANYBODY else. He's the ONLY ONE THAT TRULY MATTER'S!!!!! You'll have a long road ahead caring wat other people think!!!!!!!!
Shawna Dixon Quiet hands? Why does she need quiet hands? Do you mean she is allowing her autistic traits to show and you think that is regression? Maybe she is exhausted by masking. You asked her to stop doing something that was helping her cope with an overwhelming situation, that would be the reason for the meltdown. Other people can f@$k themselves if they are staring. Your child is not responsible for their comfort.
Allison Kramer Janz What was her day like before the 7/11?Was she off balance or over loaded before you went in?7/11 can be tough for both of mine....There are usually a lot of different or strong smells, very bright lights and sometimes louder music as well.It's tough when it feels like everyone is staring, it adds to the pressure and makes all of us more on edge.... especially when you are hoping to just get in and get out after a long dayI grew up hyper aware of what other people thought....it took a bit for me to learn to ignore them and just focus on what my kids and I needed. But once I did, it was so much better....even when the kids weren't with me:)
Jo Black You are looking at this wrong.
Shondolyn Gibson Why does she need quiet hands? Stimming is how she deals with things. She doesn't need to be fixed
Moth Mar Shondolyn Gibson what’s quiet hands
Shondolyn Gibson Telling autistic people NOT to flap and stim. Why? It harms no one
Anila Scintilla rocking back and forth is a form of stimming. her listening to the appliances sounds like an auditory form of stimming. many autistic people use stimming to calm themselves or help themselves concentrate or just because it is an activity that feels good. it is a normal and healthy thing to do
Shondolyn Gibson Yes! My lovely sqush does that, rocks back and forth and stims and it's cute and I do that too.
Draya Wilkins Whoever or whatever has taught you and your daughter “quiet hands” stop it right now. She needs to stim and you denying her that is probably one of the major contributors to her meltdowns. And momma you gotta quit caring what other people think.
Jo Black Talia wants her daughter cured of autism.
Talia Jones Please no negative comments. I'm just trying to do what is best for my daughter.
Shondolyn Gibson Then listen, please.
Shawna Dixon We are trying to help you do what is best for your daughter. Don't stop her stims. It is how she expresses emotion, communicates distress, and calms herself. This isn't regression. This is a child aware of what works for her.
Fabio Caminetti Talia Jones I was about to say...the best thing to do is listen to what is being said here..
Jo Black Then do the right thing and be accepting of her autistic self.
Amy Rose It sounds like she is trying to get thru something. Maybe she was overwhelmed by something and her stimming was helping her and when you told her she needed to have quiet hands she felt lost. She could have been excited. Stimming is a release.. a way to express what she isnt able to put into words.. thats how i see it. I understand the wanting to stop because people stare but everyone is right in saying you really cant care about other people and their opinions. I promise that is the best thing you can do for her.. not care about other people staring or giving dirty looks. Ive been there but i found out that once i stopped paying attention to other people and focused on my kids and my kids only my daughter felt more comfortable, relaxed and that was everything. ❤
Fabio Caminetti Stressful situation needs a coping mechanism, stimming is a coping mechanism, take that away then u need to replace it with something else that works if not u get a meltdown...
Jo Black She's not regressing. You simply need to be more autism friendly and accepting.