compassion / empathy / intimacy / vulnerability / politics
as most thinkers (xNTx), i struggled with these values, as it was always hard to switch my value system from logic and pragmatism to an unperceived vague *risk
what made all the difference, wasnt when reality proved
>how different people are,
>how incompetent though seemingly geniuses they are,
>how it all can hang on a false premise
what did it for me was understanding that selfesteem is the priority for the self.
it came by switching my premise from
A vision/virtue/competence and value systems are the priorities universally (both internal and external to self / intrapersonal and interpersonal)
to
B having these variables as priorities for interpersonal AND having selfesteem/health as a priority for intrapersonal
this translates into knowing (no internal conflict) that
+ Evaluating Anothers Selfesteem and respectively buffing it up if too low,
is essential in determining their functionality and capacity to hear you, let alone understand you, express themselves coherently and ultimately CHANGE.
before this shift i would view it all as politics and manipulation and lowering my standards while being inefficient - somewhat giving up on my highest standards and the option for high risk high reward.
lyrics...
Gotta' take drugs if you wanna win Gotta' make love if you want kids Get it when you're on your own So you buy a new telephone
Hallelujah, he's wearing thin Even the blind can see through him Lucid cracks in the dream Bruises into the seam
Defecated freedoms And overusing the word You will always see him For what your heart would prefer
Rage Takes time The way my heart It bleeds straight in It bleeds straight in
Gotta' shout loud if you want to know Gotta' break bones if it's not enough Always part of the game Pulling heart strings to maim
Is that what you will tell your kids? He's only violent when he's wasted Maybe he's just insecure? Maybe he'll beat up a cure
Defecated freedoms And overusing the word You will always see him For what your heart would prefer
Rage Takes time The way my heart It bleeds straight in It bleeds straight in
Rage Takes time
I know you don't care I tear apart my soul I tear apart my soul
Down Down Down Down
Nice (Nice) Nice (Nice) Nice (Nice) Nice (Nice)
Man (Man) Man (Man) Man (Man)