https://www.reddit.com/r/enfj/comments/5svksl/anybody_else_constantly_holding_everyone_else_up/
Anybody else constantly holding everyone else up to your own social rules? • /r/enfj
Alex
About that...
Whenever I get a kick in the balls from my so called intuition, my main intention is to do the exact opposite
Fuck intuition
99 percent of it is moron habits rearing their ugly heads where they're not wanted
I want to have it as trigger
whenever i intuite something, do the exact opposite
In spite of that stupid monkey
Razvan
))
Alex
Same with fear
Whenever i feel the tension/anxiety, to that exact thing that triggeres it
Razvan
sure, it makes sense, as its a concept of questining your beliefs and intuition
Alex
I sound like an adrenaline junkie
Razvan
but intuition is not an enemy, it wil and it does help you
it will more when you clean it up
Alex
I'm sure at some point I can better trust my gut
Razvan
exactly
Alex
But until I can trust my conscious self more
Razvan
mhm
Alex
I can't risk handing control over to some monkey pulling at my neurons
Razvan
also, the gut, THAT gut, will be in sync with the rational one, they will always work together, its totally different from now
it's a different feeling
Alex
Maybe mindfulness to see where it comes from
But I've always been more in my head than actually doing
Razvan
yup yup, mindfulness , observe and analyze
Alex
So in my case the best would be to just do it
Razvan
yup
Alex
Observe and analyze after
Razvan
action prompts the most information
was talking w vlad
hes dating
he keeps telling me that one seems desperate/weak
etc
Alex
Dating one
Razvan
so i ask him, did you tell her anything about this?
he says no
Alex
or dating around like a badass
Razvan
yeah, badass
so practically what he does is NOT acting.
accepting intuition and assumptions that stem from her actions.
Alex
y
Razvan
so limited information , limited analysis
Alex
You know, i noticed this at me, so i always want to act
whenever i feel a situation such a this
Razvan
mhm
Alex
I think this is where my revolt towards it erupted
Razvan
the moment you feel you drew a conclusion, sensed an emotion, especially negative, investigate
Alex
I talk to the man, and i find something that leads me isntantly to some conviction
And instead of telling the man,
Yo, look what my monkey mind thinks "that you might be insecure and stupid regarding this issue" It comes from who knows what old experience
Truth or false, its better to say it than being distracted from our talk
and allow it to distance us further, just because im afraid he interprets it poorly
Razvan
its important though to have conflict resolution concepts well grounded
Razvan
as that action, that expression will lead to many
Alex
yeah, thats one of the fears
Razvan
its in the blog / mail
Alex
where will this expression lead
the uncertainty of the unknown
Razvan
Y, its temporary
the more you apply , the more you learn
youll get more self confidence to solve any conflict and to express yourself in a way you like,
just like any other skill
Alex
All this possible shit unveils and will never resolve itself in certainty because I never express it
Razvan
and draws u further from reality
not necessarily that you didnt intuit it
but because you can never be sure, you cant exclude the other possibilities
it consumes you
Alex
y
and i get to chew on all of them
until i get depleated of mental energy
Razvan
the fog brain does it more than anything
Alex
and i throw them, someeday maybe
Razvan
and we are not always aware he does,
but the poor thing is slaving away on that crap
Alex
and it keeps bugging me of something left unfinished,
it s sad
Razvan
mhm
if you think of a team, in a corporation
Alex
and its so liberating to say it
Razvan
its like one of the members, lets say the manager, is incompetent
he schedules things wrong, prioritizes the wrong
Alex
yea, good analogy
Razvan
gotta fix that cog
and heh
the idea is not to function super ideal magical
the idea is not to block the process
as this is what currently happens
things literally get stuck
its like a team like this, that keeps switching projects, with a success rate of 30 40%
and instead of handling the dumb manager,
they look for external solutions, new techniques and tools
its like a bias, nepotism
leave him be, he is one of ours,
he is our blood, we can make it work
))
Alex
:)))
Razvan
u gotta kick his ass
Alex
my gray matter is hired on bias, its a cousin of the hypothalamus
Alex
Fmm
Razvan
but its not anyones fault, culture leads to it,
you have no reason to hate ur gray matter
Alex
At least the lizard brain knows what it's doing
Picking up their slack
Razvan
u gotta help it grow
as you cant have a transfer or hire someone new
its like having a child
you cant throw him away and get a new and improved one
Alex
Find the way to make it work
Razvan
u take it slow
life long process
btw
u on reddit ?
its a good environment to express urself n growth
vlad just did
Alex
he gave me a link
in which i saw you commenting at some fears people have
Razvan
hes the op
Alex
dunno if i have an account, but its already too much info
as , its his post ?
Razvan
mhm
Alex
Op with those 10 p
Naiss
Razvan
its not about information, its about a training ground
an environment to work, to express yourself
read less, write more kinda thing
Alex
Aaha
Razvan
analize their shit, and fuckem up
Alex
makes sens
Razvan
mhm
its essential
Alex
K, I'll put it on the list then
Razvan
its like going to a course of expression / assertiveness on the conceptual side
stay on INTp INTj
there are a lot of thugs that will question your concepts+
you gotta learn to express yourself accurately, receive criticism, managing getting triggered, etc
Alex
And try to be authentic
Razvan
try ?
be, always , default
Alex
I find it hard
Razvan
well its redit
Alex
Ca exemplu cu ne spusu omului
Prejudecata mea
Razvan
its the easiest to be here, if not here, then where
Alex
Tru
Razvan
and it will be easier once you see everybody doing it
Alex
I got no exp here
Razvan
and exaggerating at it ))
or hey, see with what you want to start
for ex INFJ
gave u that link
these guys will prioritize harmony .. so unauthenticity
maybe this will motivate you to speak out
when you see someone saying crap, and everyone supporting him emotionally ..
Alex
y
That always gets me goin